What do the Happiest Kids in the World Eat for Breakfast?

by Rina Mae Acosta and Michele Hutchison

In 2013, UNICEF researchers rated Dutch children the happiest in the world, well ahead of their peers in wellbeing when compared to other industrialized countries. In The Happiest Kids in the World: How Dutch Parents Help Their Kids (and Themselves) by Doing Less, authors Rina Mae Acosta and Michele Hutchison report back on what makes Dutch families so happy. This excerpt from the book takes a look at hagelslag, the chocolate sprinkles that are the breakfast of choice for Dutch children.

It’s all About the Hagelslag (or is it)?

Lazy Sundays are an absolute must in our household. In any case, most places are closed, or open only in the afternoon – if you’re lucky. Bram will be busy in the kitchen, preparing an elaborate breakfast, and I’ll be on the couch in the living room, breastfeeding Matteo and planning our afternoon nature walk. Julius will be in his room, playing on his own with his Duplo.

Today, the morning sunshine and crisp fall air outside have put us in a good mood. Bram is making wentelteefjes, the Dutch version of French toast, which he serves with strawberries, mango, and blueberries. I’m looking up local trails on which to hunt for fly agaric, those elusive red mushrooms with white dots on them. Until I moved to the Netherlands, I thought that these red mushrooms belonged in the fantasy world of Super Mario Brothers, in fairy tales, or with garden gnomes. It turns out they grow plentifully here, and are known for their toxicity and hallucinogenic properties. We’re on a mission simply to admire these beauties from a distance.

“My love, take a look at this,” cries out Bram from the kitchen-dining area.

I turn my head toward the table. Julius is sitting in his high chair, an infectious grin on his face. Our three-year-old has helped himself to breakfast. In front of him is a piece of bread piled high with unsalted butter and hagelslag – chocolate sprinkles.

“No wonder Dutch kids are the happiest kids in the world,” I think to myself. “Who wouldn’t be happy if they could have chocolate first thing every morning?”

I can already hear gasps of disapproval and disdain from the perfect moms of the internet. Chocolate for breakfast? You wouldn’t think that starting the morning with a sugar rush would be a brilliant idea. And he’s created a horrible mess. Butter is smeared all over his high chair, as well as his face and hands, and there are chocolate sprinkles all over the floor.

My husband and I look at each other. Shall we reprimand him? Instead, we burst out laughing and count it as another sanctimommy fail. Obliv­ious, Julius starts gobbling his hagelslag sandwich, and my husband snaps a picture of his happy face.

Breakfast of Champions?

So is there something special about eating hagelslag for breakfast? Is that really what makes Dutch children so happy? Judging by the reac­tions of American kids on a fascinating Buzzfeed video inviting them to try traditional breakfasts from around the world, it was clear that this Dutch breakfast had won their hearts. What kid wouldn’t want to eat breakfast every morning if chocolate was on the menu? But kids in other countries also eat sugar-laden foods, often in the form of cereal – Coco Pops spring to mind. No, I think it’s more about the fact that the Dutch eat breakfast as a family.

According to the 2013 UNICEF report – the one that suggested that Dutch kids were the happiest in the world – 85 percent of the Dutch children aged eleven, thirteen, and fifteen surveyed ate breakfast every day. Sitting down to eat around the table as a family, before school and the working day, is a routine that underpins Dutch family life.

In no other country do families eat breakfast together as regularly as they do in the Netherlands.

What the Dutch seem to understand is the importance of eating reg­ular meals, starting with the meal that breaks the nighttime fast. There’s an abundance of research that points out the benefits of having break­fast every morning: It’s said to reduce the risk of snacking on unhealthy foods throughout the day, decrease the risk of obesity and increase a child’s ability to concentrate at school. The Dutch are champions of breakfast time and seem to be happier and healthier because of it. But the real point is that they put as much value on the idea of starting the day together around the breakfast table, a calming and bonding experi­ence for all the family.

A Healthy, Balanced diet?

I was surprised that chocolate sprinkles are the centerpiece of breakfast across the Netherlands. Didn’t the Dutch know about the importance of a well-balanced diet low in fat and sugar? It’s true the Dutch have built a reputation, especially among expats, of preparing and eating stodgy, uninspiring food. Perhaps the best way to describe the Dutch approach to eating is that it’s utilitarian: Foods should be easy and quick to pre­pare, affordable and nutritious.

Yet, according to recent research, the Dutch no-nonsense approach to eating may be the way to go. An Oxfam study undertaken in 2014 declared that the Netherlands had “the best food in the world.” Oxfam, an organization working to fight global poverty, looked at four cri­teria: whether there was a plentiful supply of food, how affordable it was, whether it was good quality, and whether it caused high rates of obesity and diabetes. The UK came in tenth. The US was way below, in twenty-first place, because although food in the US scored high in affordability and quality, the country’s ranking was brought down by the high incidence of obesity and diabetes.

The UNICEF report supports Oxfam’s claim. Dutch children had the lowest obesity rates of all the twenty-nine industrialized countries sur­veyed. Only 8.36 percent of Dutch children aged eleven, thirteen, and fif­teen were deemed obese. Sadly, in every country except for three – the Netherlands, Denmark and Switzerland – childhood levels of obesity are now over 10 percent. In spite of bread, butter, and hagelslag, the Dutch eat a healthy, balanced diet that’s pretty much affordable to everyone.

This morning, as we watch our toddler happily eat his Dutch break­fast, his head swaying blissfully from side to side, his legs kicking to and fro, I finally realize what hagelslag is all about. Pausing for a moment and just looking at him, silencing all the neurotic and anxious voices in my head, I understand that, apart from his obvious enjoyment of the sweet taste of chocolate, my three-year-old son is content and proud to be able to choose and prepare his own breakfast. This translates into self-confidence. It really is all about the hagelslag.

_{Adapted Excerpt from The Happiest Kids in the World: How Dutch Parents Help Their Kids (and Themselves) by Doing Less © 2017 by Rina Mae Acosta and Michele Hutchison. Published with permission of The Experiment.}

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